Seebuano.

Born and raised in Cebu. Yes! I am VERY proud to say that I am BISAYA. ❀ and that you should. πŸ˜‰ if you’re not Bisaya but someone who came from the province still be proud of who you are and where you came from after all we’re Filipinos. πŸ˜ΉπŸ‘Έ

Two years ago, I threw away my oh-so beautiful life in Cebu and decided to come to Manila. Why?

  1. To know how it is to live independently
  2. To be able to go and attend music concerts
  3. To explore Luzon
  4. To meet my virtual friends
  5. Curiosity got me

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Those are just few of the reasons why I came here and to answer your question –Β yes, I was able to do everything mentioned above. 🌻😍😍😍

In living alone? πŸ‘€

For a first timer in a city like Manila one would definitely have a hard time adjusting his/her life especially if you’re not used to the busy fast life.

Lucky me, I wasn’t raised as the typical “probinsyana” so when I left my life back home adjusting wasn’t that hard. From a very laid-back-dependent kind of life to a mature independent individual now. Good bye extrovert self and hello introvert one. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ perks of being an ambivert. πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ

Traffic? πŸš₯🚦

One would definitely give up and would say s/he’ll never comes back to Manila.

I too am never get used to it (traffic). Good thing the place where I’m staying and my workplace is just walking distance away. But Manila’s traffic made me realized the importance of TIME and how valuable it is.

In commuting? πŸš‰πŸšƒπŸš–

One word to describe -complicated.

Never knew all kinds of public transportation operates in the same time, same routes. I was fine seeing public jeepneys, cabs, and private vehicles in the city but buses in the city? It makes me sick.

TIP:

  1. Don’t forget to ask the driver before riding just to be sure you’ll be drop off on your designated dropping point.
  2. The buses has letters on it:A, B, C that has a proper loading and unloading stops make sure you ride the right bus.
  3. MRT/LRT if you want to reach your destination fast but don’t expect a train like other countries, it’s not cold inside. You’re like inside a can of sardines being pushed having sweats all over.
  4. Ayala Avenue in Makati has underpass for individuals to pass through to be able to go to the other side of the road make sure you read the signs right.

Motorists?Β 

Mostly rude.

Sorry not sorry but just because they have their own vehicles they have the right not to follow the rules. Most motorists today doesn’t even know what “pedestrian lane” is for that they just simply ignore it. Instead of giving way to commuters, they rather just go and drive away or if not push their horns to the level that will irk your ears. Not sure if they were even oriented.

Work?

There are so many jobs offered here in the Metro since its the capital but one’s work position is another issue here. Definitely a dog-eat-dog world after all.

People are going to push you to your limits. Patience will be tested and how strong are you as a person. Insecurity is quite high in here. Always guard yourself or you’ll lose your battle.

Social Life? πŸ’ƒπŸΈπŸ»

Equals to drinking alcoholic beverages. Illegal drugs, getting high. Getting RSVP invite.

Back in my hometown, going to club/pub doesn’t have to get an RSVP invite, long as you have the money to pay the entrance fee then you’re good to go. Who says partying without alcohol isn’t fun? Well I do. I go to club with friends and we just dance all night. No alcoholic drinks, just water, juice or soft drinks and we’re all good. You don’t need a booze or illegal drugs to get that party vibe. All you need is a friend(s) and that little craziness inside of you. 😱😲😹

Fashion? πŸ’‡πŸ’…πŸ’†πŸ‘—πŸ‘œπŸ‘–πŸ‘•πŸ‘”πŸ‘ 

They go for the norm. What they see on TV or magazines they follow it especially if it’s worn by their favorite Filipino celebrity. πŸ™ˆβœŒ

From where I grew up, fashion is simply being you. Yes we too follow from Hollywood celebrities but mostly we just wear the most comfortable clothes one can take even if it’s outdated already. πŸ˜‰

When going swimming, it’s never an issue for us to wear proper swimming attire like bikinis.

Rules/ Laws? πŸšπŸš·πŸš³πŸšΆπŸš§πŸš­β™ΏπŸ“΅

Disregarded. Put behind. Simple rules/ laws aren’t executed well.

E.g. traffic rules. When the stop light is a GO signal for the motorists individuals still cross the street, like really? And if you’ll get hit you’re going to blame the motorist that it’s his/her fault. How crazy is it.

Money? πŸ’²πŸ’±πŸ’³πŸ’°

Here in the Metro, money is such a big deal. The more money you have the more people will befriend you.

Back in Cebu money was never an issue for me but now? I learned to appreciate its value. I know that every cent counts and should not be wasted. You too can identify if the person is being real to you or not. With money you can identify who your real friends are. Trust me. πŸ˜…

Time? βŒšβ°β³πŸ•›

Never wasted. Very fast.

Unlike in Cebu it’s very chill but here in Manila time is very important. One minute is very precious to each individual. Time here is vey fast that you can’t easily re-do things done.

Individuals?Β 

As what I observed most individuals here are stereotypes. Status quo is quite an issue here. They have labels to everything. A user. When you’re too good/kind they’re going to stick by you to the extent you’ll be used up and abused. If they can benefit from you they’ll keep you but once you’re no longer producing them then right there they’ll leave and ditch you.

E.g.Β When a person pronounced a word wrongly or with a thick accent they’d label him/her as Bisaya and make fun of it. Which is TOTALLY wrong and very judgmental of you. I mean is it wrong to be born Bisaya that you think of us so poorly?

Β As for me they tend to see me lowly just because I am from the province. Although my bisaya accent isn’t that noticeable but when I utter words wrongly they’d laughed at me. I admit my tagalog is really bad especially my grammar but instead of helping and correcting me they’d laugh. And if I speak in English they’d call me “conyo”. Question me as to why do I have to speak in English when in fact where in the Philippines. Like WTH! First and foremost I was born and raised in Cebu and people from Cebu don’t speak Tagalog. We speak Cebuano then comes next English. We were only taught how to speak Tagalog during our Filipino class and it’s only one hour and sometimes we don’t use it even at class. So tell me how are we gonna learn to speak the language? ☺

Few individuals I’ve met kept on telling me that I shoudn’t be here since my life back there is already good. Like you care anyway. Why settle with good when you can do and prove so much? πŸ™ŠπŸ˜Ή

They’ve been calling me “rich kid” because of the designer clothes I wear everyday, having owned original stuffs. Wearing comfortable clothes or should they say home clothes to malls. Buying food at a restaurant.

Hello? When you go to Cebu you’ll see individuals just like me walking same clothes I’m wearing. You usually don’t see individuals there wearing fake brands since most of us buy our clothes in the mall. It doesn’t mean we wear branded clothes we’re rich. And just so you know you Β don’t have to wear your Sunday’s dress to mall. Long as your comfortable and decent to look then you’re good to go.

Looks like buying food from or eating in a restaurant is quite a big deal too. You see, if you can afford to buy such food why stop yourself? Aren’t you tired eating same food everyday? Restaurant may seem extravagant in the outside but trust me you can always find and buy something that’s within your budget and if you have the money to pay for your food then don’t stop yourself from dining in your favorite restaurant. Reward yourself some time. πŸ˜ŠπŸ’š

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CONCLUSION:

Upon reading for sure you’re going to say that I hate Manila and how it works but you are wrong there my friend. Hate is a strong word to say. I love Manila as much as I love our country it’s just that it wasn’t managed very well. I’d probably say that I’m grateful that I grew up in Cebu and that I am currently living here in Manila.

I can see the difference now: Cebu will always be my home, a place where I always look forward of going back to but Manila will always be the place that teaches me life lessons.

Yes I have an easy and much better way of life back home but I’ll never trade what I have and who I am now.

Thank you Manila for teaching me how to become independent – from doing the household chores on my own to grocery shopping, paying bills and balancing work and life. You may have disappoint me at times but I’ll always cherished these lessons you threw and will throw at me.

Dear YOU,

Whatever happens in your life, always be thankful even if it’s bad. There are people who are killing their self just to be you. They’ll pull you down and test you but don’t let them. Be content and don’t get insecure. Lessen the complains. Accept what is thrown at you. Learn to appreciate every little thing for big surprises comes in small packages. Enjoy and experiment life. Mistakes should be learned and not to be committed again. Don’t abuse yourself you only have one body, take care of it. Guard yourself, build a wall but give it a break some time. Be kind at all times. Open that inner child. Push beyond your limits. Follow your heart but use your mind carefully in making decisions. Be spontaneous. Stand up and smile. Let out that confidence in you. Live, be free and happy. ❀🌻 xoxo.


31 thoughts on “Seebuano.

  1. If not for your conclusion, I would have thought you hate Manila. Haha! But you’re one brave lady knowing how busy that city is and you still choose to live there independently. Chuya! Haha bisaya pod ko. Taga Cebu. 😁

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  2. Friend, I have never really dreamed of living in Manila. I love it here. Thank you by the way for sharing authentic experience about your life there. Do not worry, you know the plan when I am there! πŸ™‚
    Be spontaneous. Stand up and smile. Let out that confidence in you. Live, be free and happy. –this line fed my soul! ❀

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  3. Dancing without booze is natural thoughπŸ˜€ The alcohol is just a push for party go-ers not to dance but to hook up, in my opinion haha. I only lived a week in Manila but I stayed inside that whole week since its freakishly hot, especially for a guy like me who grew up in the breezy mountains. Baguio.

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  4. When I was still in Sorsogon, being able to go to Manila was everything! Most people who grew up in the city would find themselves dreaming of just going to rural areas while it can be the opposite for those who grew up in the province. There are a lot of things we can hate about Manila but it definitely has its own interesting stories as well. πŸ™‚

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  5. It’s interesting to read what Manila is like from the perspective of someone who came from the province. I agree that making fun of people with provincial accents or those who use incorrect grammar is wrong. It’s in the culture, I guess. Most people don’t question the kind of jokes they make and even call you “too serious” or “KJ” if you say that jokes like that aren’t funny.

    Anyway, congratulations on surviving Manila. Personally I’d rather not settle here at all. A quiet life in a province, away from the EDSA traffic and pollution, is a dream of mine.

    I hope we’ll get to meet in person here sometime and I’ll get to hear more of your stories and insights. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thank you. Sorry for the bad words mentioned. 😊 i’d be happy to meet and be able to share my experiences to you as well as hear yours. 😍

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  6. I’m a proud BISAYA and I lived in manila for 10 years (i left 6 years ago). But every now and then, i travel there for overnight or just for a day. Never be afraid in Manila.

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  7. You know I have not been to Cebu since 1997?! I am born and raised in Manila for 23 years! It’s because I have been prioritizing trips abroad rather than domestic. But I admire you for stepping out of your comfort zone! You will learn a lot and adapt and that is what life is all about! =)

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  8. Kudos to you for braving the jungle that is Manila haha… I have always dreamed of moving to another place (maybe an island) just to know how it is living there. You see, I’m a city girl, born and raised in Manila. To this day it still remains a dream though but hopefully, someday I’d get to do it.

    Manila indeed could teach you so many things about life and I’m happy that despite its complexities and flaws you are able to survive here and appreciate Manila for what it is.

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  9. I always say that when I think about the outside of my comfort zone I think about Manila. Everything you have stated here is what I imagined it to be but still this curiosity of being in the capital and having it take over my senses kills me sometimes. I’d like to gather all of my courage and test myself in Manila haha

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